tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post2304844177119165951..comments2023-10-11T05:36:23.401-07:00Comments on The Dude Whisperer: Dudefile #46 - He Won't Take Down His Profilethedudewhisperer@yahoo.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03713994146134888074noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post-88944303591975207492009-05-28T11:44:10.002-07:002009-05-28T11:44:10.002-07:00Oh...come now... exclusivity before intercourse is...Oh...come now... exclusivity before intercourse is quite reasonable (and rather safe). It's not a contract. It can easily be rescinded if things do not work out. <br /><br />Also, some of the commenters are a bit cold.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17743794995524205159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post-30406271125561402792009-05-20T11:01:17.514-07:002009-05-20T11:01:17.514-07:00My concern with this dude has little to do with hi...My concern with this dude has little to do with his online profiles, and everything to do with his eagerness to be "exclusive" after a scant 2 weeks. In my experience, the people who jump the gun on commitment in this way are either of the "passionate/crazy/inconsistant/short attention span" variety - people who are in love with love, and just happen to fall for someone new every few weeks, OR, they are people who are overly anxious to lock their partner down, often without feeling compelled to lock themselves down. My instinct says this guy is in the latter category - if he was the former, he'd probably be out the door already. I'm thinking that what happened was, he met you, he liked you, you fit his idea of what a "girlfriend" should be - and he wanted to make sure YOU weren't gonna sleep with anyone else, so he offered "exclusivity," but he himself wasn't ready to be off the market - after all, he'd only known you two weeks, how could he really be ready for full-on committment? If you stick with this guy, you should be prepared for more of this "I hold you to standards that I don't hold myself to" sort of behavior. But you should also think about why YOU were so eager to commit to someone you barely know. Seems like there are issues on both sides, here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post-27974376543807289412009-05-19T21:47:03.551-07:002009-05-19T21:47:03.551-07:00Dude should dump her, and she should look for a pe...Dude should dump her, and she should look for a pet-friendly apartment - I see a lot of cats in her future. There is no reason to date somebody who is so into having "relationship problems" that they'd make an issue out of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post-88729140746943947762009-05-19T14:09:41.997-07:002009-05-19T14:09:41.997-07:00Well, in defense of the dude, maybe he's technical...Well, in defense of the dude, maybe he's technically challenged and the idea of going to all these sites and figuring how to make his profile "inactive" makes his eyes bleed. Esp. if he is spending all his free time with this new ladyfriend. I know my dude is a major procrastinator in this way. But I agree with DW, wait a few weeks and bring it up again in a non-confrontational way. Maybe you can offer to help, say, sit in his lap naked while he takes the profiles down.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2207428611426906448.post-49405594374870223292009-05-19T11:01:00.000-07:002009-05-19T11:01:00.000-07:00Dump him. Sorry. But, I think you should.Dump him. Sorry. But, I think you should.kiposevinoreply@blogger.com